Tips to keep children happy

Published April 2, 2012

Positive Parenting

Children’s smiles, giggles, toothless laughter is enough to melt sternest of hearts; parents and loved ones often crave to hear those sounds, which is one of the best possible stress busters. Children, are sensitive to change, which might change their mood pattern.

Keeping children happy can be a pleasurable exercise or you might find yourself at wits end when nothing seems to be working.

A cross section of individuals – parents, and councilors alike - recommended some tips to keep children happy.

To ensure that children are happy, show and exhibit that you love them. There is a school of thought which firmly believes that there can never be ‘too much love’ or ‘love spoils’ – most times it is the leniency shown by parents or giving into their expectations that makes children to take things for granted.

It is critical that parents are involved with their children’s lives – play with them, help them out with their homework, listen and talk to them. In the crazy working schedules, we need to prioritise our time and be responsible parents.

Live the inner child with them – adaptation is the key, speak with them in their language, take their concerns and priorities as much as you would take your project, office, or school deadline. Most times it is as simple as them being able to pick up a cup and put it on the table.  Let them paint your face or play characters they want to be at that moment.

Participate in their lives – let them assist you in chores, cleaning dishes, whipping an egg, help them ice the cake, make the bed, clean the house – mind you there would be spills and breakages, but this is a learning process and they would need encouragement to improve and perfect the art of what they are doing.

Allow them to make choices – as children grow up, it is imperative that they are allowed to make choices, from the colour of clothes they want to wear, the bag they want to carry to school. Parents can have final say, depending on the item, budget and usability.

Children would exert their desire to be independent, which should not be seen as rebellious behaviour. It is a normal progression in growth and development, the desire to ‘be in control’ of their space. 

Everything said and done, it is important for parents to ensure that there are rules laid out and that those rules are coherent. You will need to talk to your children and explain why such set of rules are applied – from brushing teeth, taking a bath, being respectful to peers and elders, speaking appropriately etc.

Discipline is necessary but it should not be exhibited in public or in front of the child’s friends – it not only affects the morale and self-confidence of the child. But hitting and spanking, according to some medical professionals, breeds violent behaviour. 

Respect your children – children need to be treated with respect so they emulate and reciprocate the behaviour. Listen to them, speak to them with respect, and pay heed to their opinion and suggestions. It is a known fact that children treat others the way they are treated at home.  Oftentime we are faced with the dilemma of children being choosy or picky eaters, there is no point in trying to force feed them, it’s their age to develop tastes and likings, an occasional burger or pizza is always welcome - moderation is the key.

Reward them for good deeds that they do – its not always a treat, a book, game or movies that motivates or encourages - a hug, word of encouragement, ‘hi-five’ for a job well done goes a long way.

Children are a blessing, proper nurturing reaps life long rewards; we reap what we sow, and as parents we need to ensure we do our best to raise happy children. Its not often material things that bring that happiness, being there for your children goes a long way.